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Attempt a fresh type of food (and pitch in to pay from time to time), or if you must stay cooped up in the house, pull out the Dominoes.

Try a new type of food (and pitch in to pay from time to time), or if you must stay cooped up in the house, pull out the Dominoes.

I’m presently in a relationship with a fella the age of my older sister. It has its perks and it has its bummer moments, but I think dating up in age is something that women should do at least once in life, even if it doesn’t turn into something serious. Dating an older man can instruct you a lot, especially about yourself (and what you do and don’t want in a playmate), but it’s not always the easiest of relationships. But then again, what relationship is ever effortless? Just in case you’re thinking of getting serious with a fella fairly a few years older or even decades older than you, here are a few things you might want to keep in mind before you get it crackin’.

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Patience Is EVERYTHING

Depending on how old the man you&rsquo,re observing is, he might have certain goals he&rsquo,s attempting to finish accomplishing. I know a woman who dates an older man, and he leaps from profession to profession while attempting to make a career in music take off. But the stud I&rsquo,m dating is focused on taking his career to the next level. He&rsquo,s busy studying for a major exam that will permit him to work for whomever he wants and to make the kind of moves and money I very likely won&rsquo,t ever see (hey, columnists weren&rsquo,t meant to be millionaires). With all that drive comes a lot of time we don&rsquo,t get to share together. Early on I used to have a fit every week about what he could do to make more time for me, but at a certain point, after some compromising, you end up just attempting to be supportive and patient. Besides, I wouldn&rsquo,t want the finger pointed at me for having a part in keeping him from doing what he needs to do to get ahead.

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He Might Be Stuck In His Ways…,

Some older fellas are nimble in attempting fresh things (aka, the stuff you like), but what happens when you’re dealing with one who says, “I stopped stringing up out at places like that in my 20s”? Sometimes you just have to accept that you might be messing with a party pooper, and from there you will have to determine if his lack of spontaneity is enough to make you leave because you feel you’re being held back. But for the most part, suggesting a range of joy things that don’t become repetitive could get him out of his set ways leisurely but surely. Especially if those things are free.99…,

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Don’t Be Afraid To Suggest Things To Keep It Fresh (Or It WILL Get Stale)

Like I said, if you permit it, things can get pretty abate. While I love me some him, my playmate has no problem with chilling indoors all day, catching up on his taped shows and eating the same rice dish every week. Uh, I can’t go for that.

Feel free to encourage an chance for the both of you to cook together. Go for walks when the weather permits. Hit up a nice wine bar and talk about more than work. Attempt a fresh type of food (and pitch in to pay from time to time), or if you must stay cooped up in the house, pull out the Dominoes. You don’t have to hit up a nightclub every weekend, but you certainly don’t want to spend too many weekends being the coupled up couch potatoes.

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Don’t Make Him Feel Too Old, Or Make Yourself Look Too Youthfull

Joking from time to time is cool, but don’t get too comfy attempting to blame certain issues on his age. (“Just because you’re 44 and you don’t like to do ___ doesn’t mean ___.”) Just as you wouldn’t want him to continuously blame certain things you do on your age (like you’re a child), I wouldn’t recommend doing the same. And if he likes a certain type of music or movie that is a bit “old” for you, don’t be too dramatic when he talks about his love for it (i.e. “WHO!? That must be before my time…,”).

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Be Ready For His Friends And Family, And Their Expectations…,

An older man might know what he wants for himself in the next span of years, but so do his family members. Don’t get too leaned out of form if a question is asked of you that you didn’t see coming (“When are you guys getting married??”). Just be fair about the fact that you’re taking things slow (if that’s what you’re doing) and keep it cool (Or, “You gotta ask him” always works). Also be ready for nosy friends (especially women friends) who might think they’re entitled to question you about your cooking abilities, and what you’d be willing to do for their friend if you’re around for the long-term. Instead of cussing them good, just say, “No comment.”

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Don’t Assume Anything

Don’t come in thinking you’ve found a sugar daddy, or that because he’s older he will have his life together and be wise. Sometimes age truly isn’t nothin’ but a number. He might be in a world of debt and have a sideways way of thinking as opposed to an IRA account and a wealth of wisdom from past practices. Every man is different, and sometimes switch of self doesn’t come with a switch in age.

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Do You, Boo Boo

Don’t commence switching things about yourself to mold into wifey-material, just because he knows he wants to lodge down soon. It’s okay to take interest in things he has a passion for, but don’t begin doing things you know you can’t stand to make a good impression. That includes cooking elaborate meals, pretending you love baseball and agreeing to see old war movies. Don’t switch yourself to get his attention. You’ve already got it!

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Speak Up!

All that *I know you can read my mind so you should know I’m hella pissed* way of doing things could get you overlooked by an older man real quick. Trust me, I learned the hard way. So if you’re upset about something substantial, don’t be afraid to peaceful yourself down, open your mouth and let it be known that you’ve been hurt by his deeds. If you don’t want to do something or don’t like something, speak on it. Don’t keep it to yourself and sulk or bellow about it. Being straightforward goes a long way.

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The Age Difference Is Only A Problem If You Let It Be One

The fact that I wrote this article should tell you that age does matter. But it shouldn’t be that big of a deal in your relationship to the point that it’s often brought up or on your mind. Know soon into a relationship with an older man where you all stand on different things that could be a big deal in the future, including kids, marriage, and your feelings on cohabitation and more, and you should be able to make the relationship work as if you were dating someone the same age as you.

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