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Copy and pasting initial message on dating website dishonest?
How does a pretty dame like you end up on okcupid?
She’ll most likely disagree with you here, hence why she’s on the site. I’m sure you were hoping for the “you’re right, but I just haven’t been able to find the RIGHT stud” kind of response.
This varies. You can sometimes get a sense of a person’s sense of humor, and most people have some likes/dislikes you can use to begin a conversation where you can get to know them better. A profile isn’t a biography, it’s just a brief overview you can use to figure out what to embark off with.
I understand why you’d think this, but I don’t think it’s necessarily true. Admittedly, most of the guys I’ve talked to who are on dating sites get frustrated by the lack of responses they get, but at the same time, the messages they send are usually pretty average. On OkCupid you indeed have to distinguish yourself from all the other guys contesting for the same damsels as you, and you have to put more effort into making your initial messages interesting or unusual. It also makes a big difference if YOUR profile is interesting/unusual. If you look through other guys’ profiles on the site, you can get a sense of what to do and what not to do. Including humor and references to things you love helps, unless they’re the same mass references that everybody makes. Basically. look through other profiles and make sure you’re not telling the same things as everyone else.
It’s impersonal, and in the worst case screenplay, insulting. Using a copypaste message is similar to using a pickup line at a bar, in my opinion. It’s demonstrating that you just want A lady, not THIS doll that you’re messaging. No matter how good your copypaste/pickup line is, it’s still just something you could use on anybody.