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The secret to successful online dating

The secret to successful online dating

As a examine exposes a playful screen name could be the key to getting an online date, we round up some essential dos and don’ts for finding love on the web

11:39AM GMT 13 Feb 2015

Online dating is now so popular that it accounts for one in every five fresh relationships and one in six marriages.

But with so many potential dates communicating online, there’s a knack to getting it right. And a fresh examine shows that compiling the ideal profile is the key to finding love on the web.

Researchers at Queen Mary University London found that using a playful screen name, embarking with a letter near the beginning of the alphabet, counts for just as much as an attractive photograph.

They found that names with negative connotations, such as “Little” or “Bugg”, are often linked with inferiority, while light-hearted screen names, like Fun2bwith, are more likely to result in a date. Studs are more attracted to names that suggest physical appearance, such as “Blondie” or “Cutie”, whereas women choose names that demonstrate intelligence, such as “Cultured”.

Writing in the journal Evidence Based Medicine, Prof Khalid Khan advised online daters to be fair and positive about themselves, using humour to “give the edge” in seeking a fucking partner.

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Voicing an interest in particular hobbies appeals to prospective dates, too. “Studs choose physical fitness in women gained via yoga, aerobics and gym, not via rugby and bodybuilding,” explains Prof Khan, “while women choose bravery, courage and a preparedness to take risks rather than graciousness and altruism in their playmates.”

Another latest investigate showcased that words such as “skiing”, “yoga” and “the ocean” help dudes get dates, “sweet”, “running” and “dance” help women get dates online. “Electronics” works well for both sexes. Liking Radiohead, Homeland, Pulp Fiction and The Good Gatsby are effective date words, and mentioning cats is fine, as long as you don’t say “my cats”.

Dudes who refer to women as “females” or “women” rather than “ladies” are more likely to find a mate, as are dudes who use the word “whom” (31 per cent more online communication). Smiley face emojis work unexpectedly well online – indeed, people who use emojis evidently have more lovemaking. But make sure you use the ones with a nose 🙂 , rather than those without 🙂

Here, Kate Taylor, a relationship pro with Match.com – the world’s fattest dating site – gives the ultimate guide finding that special someone online:

One in six marriages now starts online Source: match.com

Profiles with pictures receive 16 times more responses than those without. The most successful photos are taken in daylight, using an SLR camera (not a smartphone), and display just one person, not a group. Summery photos work better than wintery shots.

. but only if you’re female. Women who look directly into the camera for their profile picture receive far more responses than women who look away. Interestingly, the opposite is true for fellows. We don’t know why – could it be women choose a more brooding, dissipated man?

Include a photo of you engaged in an interesting activity

Like playing an instrument, a sport, or in an unusual location. These photos create the most conversations because they break the ice.

Include your most sociable interests in your profile

. not your solitary passions. Demonstrate someone how they can fit into your world. For example, if you love film, mention the cinema, not the fact you recently lost an entire weekend to Netflix.

Write a brief, upbeat profile

Nothing too deep or too long. Imagine you’re talking to someone you’ve just met in a bar: how would you describe yourself and your lifestyle?

Marriages that begin online are 25% more likely to last than marriages that begin in more traditional ways Source: University of Chicago

Use a photo taken with a flash

Research shows they age your face by seven years. And don’,t include alcohol, group shots of friends, or a hastily photoshopped-out ex.

Anything over 12 months old needs updating. The fattest reason very first dates don’t lead to 2nd dates is “unmet expectations”.

Mention your ex in your profile

It suggests you’re not ready for a fresh relationship. If you’re divorced/separated with children, use the drop-down menu to expose that.

“I’m looking for someone who’s tall, funny, intelligent, kind, loyal, romantic, sociable. ” For readers, they’re both abate to read and amazingly daunting. Instead, send out a request for company. “I’d love to meet someone with whom to explore far-flung places,” or “Dining alone is getting abate. Join me?”

Be intimidated by “dos and don’ts” lists like these

Just upload a brief profile and several nice photos, and get embarked. You can always tweak things later. In fact, regularly updating your profile keeps you active on the site and leads to more matches, so see your profile as a work in progress.

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